The Newton TAB and the Boston Globe have reported a bizarre flier that has been distributed lately in Newton. It claims that Senator Cynthia Creem is â€œperpetuating a war against children and parents.â€ As chairman of the board of Fathers & Families, a national nonprofit with 6,000 supporters in Massachusetts, I am dismayed by this foolish attack. Unfortunately, the rants of a tiny group called FathersUnite.org cause people to dismiss important questions about the family courts, the welfare of our children and our elected officials.
The experience of a Fathers & Families member makes the problem clear. When his 2-year-old son Joshua (fictitious name to protect privacy) is frightened, he reflexively throws his arms around his dad and holds on for dear life. For some reason, he gets special comfort from holding onto dadâ€™s earlobe. Unfortunately, since his parents separated, the courts have ordered that he only gets to see his dad about four days per month, with no overnights. Joshua toddles around the house searching for â€œDada, Dada,â€ is often sad and sleeps poorly at night.